Wedding Planning Myths….Exposed! Pt.1

“Do all things with love.”   Og Mandino


Valentine’s Day just past and either you ran into people who were head over heels in love or people that are cynical about the holiday altogether. I happen to be a hopeless romantic and I am in love with the idea of being in love, which is one of the reasons that I am passionate about designing weddings. I wanted to take this time send my well wishes to all of the couples that took that next step and decided to get engaged. Congratulations to you and your new fiancé, as you make the decision to create a new life together.

Planning a wedding is suppose to be a fun, exciting, and most importantly stress free experience. If you take one thing away from this post, I want you to remember that planning your wedding is all about the love that you are experiencing at this very moment and don’t let anything interrupt that. I wanted to let you in on a few things as you get started;  there are myths to the wedding planning process that you need to be aware of and you are in luck, I feel like exposing them!

Myth #1: “I don’t need a wedding planner, either I will do it myself or use my sister, cousin, aunt  or friend to plan it for me.”

I’m really not saying this because I plan weddings, but there a small number of weddings that actually turn out to be “stress-free” and organized when you have your family involved in the planning process, it doesn’t matter how many parties they have planned. It is always better to seek out the assistance of a professional that can guide your process, assist you with selecting vendors, or  to consult with you on your design and if you want to have your family help out by assigning them menial tasks to complete, that’s fine. Planning a wedding can be overwhelming enough for the couple that works full-time but involving your family and friends in your planning process can prove to be more stressful then helpful. And furthermore, do you really want your family and friends running around decorating and setting up for your wedding or actually enjoying it?

Myth #2: “I can’t afford a wedding planner.”

Actually in most cases you can’t afford not to have a planner. Working with an effective, efficient and budget conscious planner can be beneficial for you in that the planner should have forged relationships with other suppliers and vendors that can be provide you with services at reasonable rates. Also, most planners have a variety of wedding packages that are based on overall wedding budgets or their level of involvement. I recommend reaching out to a planner and being honest with yourself and them about your budget, your reasons for needing a planner, and potential cost saving strategies to keep you within that budget.

Myth #3: “I have to plan my wedding a year in advance?”

Well not necessarily, depending on your particular vision for your special day, you may not need all of that time. The most important factor in determining whether you need a year, is based on securing your ceremony and reception venues. The further in advance you plan, the better chances you have to get the venue you want however, its important to know that some venues will provide concessions and great deals if they haven’t booked business on your preferred date or you decide to select a non-traditional day like a Friday or Sunday.

Myth #4: “Bigger is better.”

Nope, this is one of the most important myths for me to expose. Listen carefully….This is the day that you begin your life with your life partner, it is not a social hour. So don’t feel like you have to invite everyone in your rolodex to appease anyone else besides you and your fiancé. Your ceremony and reception should be intimate and you should feel the love in the room from all of your family and friends that have come together to celebrate both of you. Period. If you get annoyed by the fact that you are paying a caterer to feed your guests, then they shouldn’t be invited, it’s that simple. Be selective about your guest list.

Myth #5: “Going with an all inclusive hotel package is the best option.”

Not always, first make a list of what’s important to both of you in a venue and develop a pros and cons list based on each venue you are considering. This will help you guide your decision on what you really want to spend your budget on. Don’t limit yourself, sometimes utilizing unique venues like a college campus, or historic properties can be more cost effective and add character to your event design.

I could really go on and on, but I think this is enough to get you started in your planning. With these truths in mind, you will be better equipped to start your planning. Feel free to share your thoughts, questions, or concerns with us and stay tuned for wedding myths exposed pt. 2!!!

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